Is being selfish all that bad? I say yes and no. If you have a genuine goal and focus in your life. I say fuck it! Be selfish to your heart contends. Why you may ask? Because you're focused. You simply have no time for BS, doing favors for others who may or may not value your time.

Time is so finite, it comes and goes before you know it. One moment you're in high school or college with a dream. A few sidetracks later you're in your 30’s or 40’s scrambling to get your goals and dreams accomplished. This is how a midlife crisis happens. Time has passed trying to find yourself, having fun with friends. Working a job you mildly enjoy, not giving it your all, fearing failure, fearing not being good enough, helping others for whatever reason, and so on. Life has passed you by. But it's not too late, to separate yourself, focus and be selfish.

It’s your life you live it how you want when you want. I get that. Who am I to tell you what you should do with your life. But meet me halfway. Ask yourself do or did you ever have goals and dreams? Now ask yourself are you accomplishing these goals and dreams? Are you where you want to be in life?

Now if you're not working towards these goals. What are you doing? What happened? I bet during your journey throughout life you may have been a little more selfless than you needed to be. Either that or procrastination has a big part of this. For me, it’s both of these. Even though I have many things accomplished in my life. I still feel like I haven’t accomplished anything yet.

If only I was a little more selfish throughout my journey. I’d be much closer to where I want to be. I’d be that glorified software engineer. Decorated with 4+ degrees and 20+ certifications and certificates. Id also has mountains of apps, websites, and software for download. Online courses, books, a thriving business, and YouTube. If only I’d just said no or maybe refer them to someone that has the time to help them. Throughout my life, I’ve helped people and have gotten nothing in return. I even take the time to help those that knowingly hate me and very publicly tried to stab me in the back.

I’m sure there are many of you out there that has done the same thing. Honestly, it feels right for me to help others but not like this. As I said above time is finite. So I’ll just be helping people indirectly from here on out. I’m making myself a ghost, impossible to get a hold of. If they do get a hold of me I simply say no, or I can’t with no explanation.

I’ll have many things online including this platform that can help them. Wanna learn to trade or improve your coding, try kodotrading. Want to get fit kodofitness; want to overall improve yourself kodoninja and so on. Everything will be carefully researched planned, written, and filmed. My time is valuable. I’ll charge a premium for my services outside my various free and paid materials. Because in actuality I’d rather be improving and creating content that can help countless people at one time. That's mutualism, the best thing for everyone.

I’m sure if you were a little more selfish in life you would have that dream job by now. Or in general, you would at least know you put everything into your goals and got the most out of what you wanted to do. If you stop to take care of everyone's needs before yours; you’ll always fall short of who you are and who you want to be. It’s never too late to isolate yourself, leave those needy “friends”, family and others behind that are using you. Forget everything and everyone else and focus on who you're meant to be.